First Session’s… akwardness
I have realised that over the last couple of weeks, I have been talking about cases that have managed one way or another to let go of their fears and reservations, have acknowledged their own responsibility and have eventually decided to begin their own journey of psychotherapy or counselling. I have also mentioned those people who feel very comfortable becoming engaged in the psychotherapeutic process, as this is not their first time. Usually what they are aiming for is a reminder, or what could be described as a “quick fix”, a way of reminding themselves useful tools and information so as to be able to overcome their current difficulties. Last but not least, there are a few clients who feel more ready to become involved in the process as they have initially been referred by their doctors, gps, and they feel already convinced that this is a rational and wise alternative. What happend though with those clients that although they have realised that it is time they asked for help, they find it very difficult to convince themselves as fear, anxiety and loss of courage have become greater than the actual problem?
The most important element that you have to bear in mind is the idea that you should always have your best interest at heart. If you feel that the time has come, then go for it! I’m here to help you and not to judge you whether you are right or wrong. It is also very important to try to attend your first session, see how you feel during the session, and they we can both decide whether psychotherapy is the best way forward, the frequency, etc. I’m very talkative with my clients, I’m very open to share my thoughts, my hypotheses and I always expect to hear your own feedback. Over the years of practice, I’m very respectful towards each client’s pace; I’m very much aware of my capacities and limitations (both personal and professional) and I’m always ready to ask for help or refer clients to other professionals if needed.
However, what I would like to highlight is the fact that I understand how difficult, uncomfortable and upsetting it is to acknowledge your difficulties, not only to yourself but to me too. The most important element that you have to remember is that you are aiming to help YOURSELF, to overcome the difficulties that might have been interfering with your own well being, with your relationships to other people, etc…
(At the end of the day, I’m just an observant and I will be seating next to you along the way)!
Eva Lychrou is a psychotherapist based in London and in Athens, helping people deal with family issues, relationship difficulties and self development in general.
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