How to banish burnout for good!

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SUMMARY:

My intention for today’s post is to enable you once and for all to be able to deal effectively with burnout all year round, with or without the option of holidays.

Point no. 1: See what your wheel of life looks like

Imagine that your life is a wheel and this wheel consists of different sections corresponding to some typical areas of your life, such as your physical body, your emotions, your relationships, your time, your work, your finances and lastly your spiritual sense. The middle of the circle corresponds to “0” and the outside ring of the circle corresponds to “10”. Now, taking one area at a time, I would like to ask you to grade yourself on a scale of “0” to “10” where you are today vs., where you really want to be. Then simply draw a line across the section that represents the number you currently rate yourself at in that section. The idea is that the wheel of your life needs to be even in all sections in order to be able to run smoothly.

 

Point no. 2: Be ready to drop some things off your to-do list

Arianna Huffington constantly talks about the importance of being honest with yourself and be ready to accept that if you haven’t found the time to complete some things on your “to do” list and you keep transferring them over to the next one, maybe it is important to realise that it is time you let them drop. Maybe they are not that important to you, and you should rather spend your time and energy completing more significant ones, like the ones that you really WANT to do!

 

Point no. 3:  Take better care of yourself

In order to be able to make any major or minor shift in your career or in your life in general, you need to make sure that you are doing everything you can to physically take care of yourself. Usually when suffering from burnout, some people engage in unhealthy coping strategies like drinking too much, smoking, eating too much junk food, not eating enough or not getting enough sleep! Do whatever it takes to replenish your natural resources!

 

Point no. 4: Identify what is YOUR definition of success

Maybe it is time to be honest with yourself and realise what that is YOUR definition of success! You see, your definition of a good life is a very personal thing. Your definition may be radically different from another. Spend as much time as you need to come to a better understanding.

 

And remember:We all share the same challenges. As long as we share and learn from each other, the better the quality of our lives is going to be. 

 

FULL TRANSCRIPT:

Hi, this is Eva Lychrou, Greek psychotherapist and coach in London.

Today’s topic is very close to my heart, as I will get to speak to you about a very very important topic; and that is the issue of getting burnout at work. I have seen so many people, both on a personal and professional level, get caught up in a never ending cycle of working harder, feeling drained and living less. Remember that unfortunately burnout makes no exception between men and women. In today’s question you will get to hear Anna’s experience and she writes:

Hi Eva. I’m sure it is not the first time you will get to hear a similar story like mine, but I didn’t know what else I could do about it. I’m glad I even had the chance to sit down and write this email to you. My name is Anna and I believe that I’m a classic burnout case! My dream, ever since I graduated from university, was to get a job in the banking industry. Although I have many friends who had already shared their stories about banking, I thought I would be different. I have always been very driven and organised as a person so I thought I would be able to handle the job’s stressors more effectively than others and have a decent quality of life. I have realised I was dead wrong. There are so many things on my “to do” list but I never get the time to actually do them, such as going out with some friends. Is there any advice you could give me on dealing more effectively with burnout? Thank you, Anna

 

Anna, thank you very much for reaching out and for being so honest about it. I can already think quite a few people who can relate to your question, so that is why I will jump right into the following four points:

 

Point no.1: See what your wheel of life looks like

A great way to examine where you have been focusing over the last couple of months and ultimately see what other areas of your life need some attention too, would be to draw your wheel of life.

Imagine that your life is a wheel and this wheel consists of different sections corresponding to some typical areas of your life, such as your physical body, your emotions, your relationships, your time, your work, your finances and lastly your spiritual sense. The middle of the circle corresponds to “0” and the outside ring of the circle corresponds to “10”. Now, taking one area at a time, I would like to ask you to grade yourself on a scale of “0” to “10” where you are today vs., where you really want to be. For example you might rate yourself at 10 in your career and a “0” in your ability to manage your time. Then simply draw a line across the section that represents the number you currently rate yourself at in that section. The idea is that the wheel of your life needs to be even in all sections in order to be able to run smoothly.

Therefore, after having completed this simple but very effective exercise, you will be able to have a very clear picture of where you are, where you need to be and which areas of your life need to be even with the others so that you can have a smooth life.

 

Point no. 2: Be ready to drop some things off your list

I have heard Arianna Huffington talk very casually about it and ever since I have given the same advice to myself and many of my clients. BTW if you haven’t come across Arianna’s Huffington book, “Thrive”, you are about to give yourself a huge gift! So the point that Arianna makes is that it is very important to be honest with yourself and be ready to accept that if you haven’t found the time to complete some things on your “to do” list and you keep transferring them over to the next one, maybe it is important to realise that it is time you let them drop. Maybe they are not that important to you, and you should rather spend your time and energy completing more significant ones. By significant I mean you need to make sure that your “to do” list consists of less items that you feel you SHOULD do rather than the ones that you really WANT to do. Otherwise, your “to do” list will always feel impossible to do.

 

Which brings me to point no. 3:  Take better care of yourself

No matter how low you have been feeling, or how drastically you want to change, first thing’s first!

You have to bear in mind that in order to be able to make any major or minor shift in your career or in your life in general, you need to make sure that you are doing everything you can to physically take care of yourself. Usually when suffering from burnout, some people engage in unhealthy coping strategies like drinking too much, smoking, eating too much junk food, not eating enough or not getting enough sleep. Self medication is another issue and some people end up relying on sleeping pills to sleep, or drink more alcohol at the end of the day to de-stress or even drink more coffee to stay awake for longer or for waking up after a short night’s sleep.

Be honest with yourself and do whatever it takes to replenish your natural resources, such as getting a good night’s sleep, or getting proper nutritious food, etc.

 

Last point for today: Identify what is YOUR definition of success

An equally important point to bear in mind is how you have defined success so far. Like many, it seems to me that you have equated money and power with success, and of course there is no right or wrong in that. But since you found yourself wondering about not having a decent quality of life, maybe it is time to be honest with yourself and realise what that is. You see, your definition of a good life is a very personal thing. Your definition may be radically different from another. Spend as much time as you need to come to a better understanding. If you get stuck, it is always helpful to see how others measure success so that you can ultimately create your own personal definition.

Before I wrap this up, here is a tweet for you to share:

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Anna, these were my points to you! I hope they help! Let me know how it goes!

Now I would love to hear from you.

Have you ever found yourself feeling drained because of work? What did you have to sacrifice because of that? What is your definition of success after all?

Let me know in the comments below.

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And remember: we all share the same challenges. As long as we share and learn from each other, the better the quality of our lives is going to be. See you next time!

 

 

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