Over the last couple of weeks, I have met and worked closely together with women, who have been single for a long time (regardless of the reasons, which I will not mention in this case). However, due to the common element among all of the them, I would like to suggest some useful tips (just in case it has not become clear for some of you women!).
1) There is no coincidence
I’m a strong believer that everything happens for a reason, and especially in the case where there seems to be something in common; for example among your partners, among your way of dealing things, among the way the relationship was ended, etc. Try to put all this information together and you will be surprised! So instead of blaming him for his behaviour, and consequently handing him the responsibility, it is high time you acknowledged that you are equally responsible and able to change things, as soon as you realise what it is that you need to change.
2) Share other people’s opinion
Of course you are capable of making changes, but at the same time you are only human; human who potentially makes mistakes.Therefore, it is often very useful to listen to what other people have to say about the situation, let them share their views and their perspectives about the relationship. However, it is very important to be able to hear what other people might have perceived, taking always into account that you respect other people’s views and that you understand that it is not a matter of criticism; it is a matter of second unbiased opinion (remember that you have asked for their help)!
3) Be optimistic!
Make full use of your time, enjoy, get ready to meet new people! You have to create your own luck, by acknowledging that you are equally responsible of making things happen, sometimes the right person happens to be just around the corner and you have been too busy to realise it! Even if this is not the case, at least you will have enjoyed yourself!!!!
4) Be ready!
You have to remind that to yourself all the time! Instead of trying to guess whether he is the perfect match for you, whether he will make a good husband, spend your time trying to actually meet him; but most importantly give yourself the TIME and SPACE to do things differently than the last time!