Want to know my simplest and most effective relationship advice?

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SUMMARY:

My only and most precious advice that I would like to share with you today is this:

focus on your partner for 20 minutes each day! You have to realise that no matter how busy your day is, you have to find the time to intentionally focus on one another!

You really need to make the effort to spend time truly focusing on one another, without any other distraction! These 20 minutes should be well spent listening and paying attention only to one another! If you can’t make it every day you’d better make it up to one another as early as possible!

 

And remember we all share the same challenges. As long as we share and learn from each other, the better the quality of our lives is going to be. See you next time!

 

FULL TRANSCRIPT:

Hi, this is Eva Lychrou and I’m a Greek psychotherapist and coach in London.

Today’s topic came about after having received one of my viewer’s really interesting question regarding romantic relationships! If you are currently in a relationship or if you are in a transition phase, stay tuned because this content is for you!

Helena wrote to me: “hello Eva, after having attended far too many weddings this summer, I was wondering: “what could be your best piece of advice for newly married couples or for anyone who is interested in creating a long lasting fulfilling relationship”? Thank you, Helena.

Well, I must admit, your question is quite a challenge Helena!  Throughout my career as a psychotherapist and coach, I have been blessed to work with numerous clients who had various relationship issues. I have also been blessed to be happily married for the last couple of years, so I will share with you my most objective and transparent advice!

My most precious advice that I would like to share with you today is this:

focus on your partner for 20 minutes each day!

Just think about it: you spend most of your day rushing from one thing to the other, going from meetings to phone calls, doing errands… but how much of your every day time is devoted to your partner? You have to realise that no matter how busy your day is, you have to find the time to intentionally focus on one another!

I will share with you a very common everyday picture: how many times have you found yourselves seating in the same room with your partner, even for hours, but eventually realising that you have actually been dis-connected for hours? What has happened most of the times is that you have been focusing on various screens, or different stressors… anything apart from really being present with your partner…

On the flip side, how many times have you found yourself stuck in a boring place like being on the plane, or taking a long drive, but it was so much fun because it was just you, your partner and the world? I for one, can’t wait to get on the plane with my husband because I know that there won’t be any distractions!

And I know what you must be thinking… ok so activities like having dinner together don’t count? My answer would be no! You really need to make the effort to spend time truly focusing on one another, without any other distraction! These 20 minutes should be well spent listening and paying attention only to one another! And if 20 minutes seems too difficult to do, spend 15, 10 or even 5 as long as they are well spent. And I’m talking on a daily basis! If you can’t make it every day you’d better make it up to one another as early as possible!

What you have to realise is that this will ultimately be a win- win situation for both of you; and the reason for that is because you will not only get to acknowledge, respect and cherish one another, you will have set some non negotiable expectations about what a relationship should look like; but at the same time by accepting this kind of responsibility and commitment, you are ultimately becoming a person who can attract this kind of relationship – a focused, devoted and caring relationship!

By applying this simple yet very effective daily intention, you will ultimately learn to treat both yourself and your partner with nothing but respect, love and compassion.

Before I wrap this up, here is a tweet for you to share:

best relationship tweet

 

 

Helena, I hope this answered your amazing question! Let me know what you think and whether you found it useful.

Now I would love to hear from you.

What is the single best relationship advice you have received or heard so far?

Let me know in the comments below.

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And remember we all share the same challenges. As long as we share and learn from each other, the better the quality of our lives is going to be. See you next time!

 

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