When Love Feels Harder Than It Should

Lately, it feels like every conversation turns into an argument — or silence. You find yourselves circling the same issues, growing more distant even as you try to reconnect. Maybe you’ve drifted into parallel lives, more like roommates than partners. Or perhaps something deeper — a breach of trust, an affair, a betrayal — has left you unsure how to begin again.
Even small decisions — how to parent, spend money, or divide responsibilities — have started to feel like battlefields.

You may not be able to name one single event that caused this distance. You just know that something precious between you has gone quiet.

Beginning to Reconnect

Whether we meet together as a couple or start with individual sessions, our work focuses on understanding what has been happening between you — and within you.
Sometimes one partner begins therapy alone, simply to make sense of the relationship and their own part in it.
Other times, it helps to have both partners in the room, where we can slow things down and start to rebuild safety and understanding.

There isn’t one fixed format — the shape of therapy adapts to your needs and where you are in your process.

What This Space Offers

Therapy gives you the chance to pause the cycle — to step out of reactivity and into awareness.
It’s not about deciding who’s right; it’s about learning how to repair.
Together, we work on rebuilding trust, emotional safety, and connection so that you can talk, listen, and truly hear each other again.

Did You Know?

Every couple naturally moves through three phases:

• The Honeymoon Phase – chemistry and closeness feel effortless.

• The Power Struggle – differences surface, and old patterns reappear.

• Interdependence – the phase of mature love, where individuality and connection coexist.

Most couples find themselves stuck in the second phase, unsure how to move through it.
In therapy, we explore what drives those moments of rupture — the unmet needs, the old fears, the unspoken grief beneath the arguments. Through this process, you begin to see conflict not as a threat, but as a doorway to deeper intimacy.

Why Relationships Feel Harder Today

Relationships today carry enormous pressure — to be our source of love, safety, friendship, passion, and purpose all at once. Yet most of us were never taught the emotional skills required to sustain all of that.
It’s easy to feel like you should already know how to make things work — but no one is born knowing how to navigate closeness, difference, and repair. That’s where our work begins: learning how to stay connected without losing yourself.

If You’re Unsure About Couples Therapy

You might wonder whether therapy will actually make things better — or worry that it could make things worse.
You might fear I’ll take sides, or that it’s too late for change.

I understand.

This process isn’t about blame or choosing winners.
It’s about restoring balance and helping both partners feel seen, heard, and valued.
Sessions are honest but never harsh; structured, but always compassionate.

And if your partner isn’t ready to join yet, you can still begin individually — sometimes one person’s change can shift the entire relationship dynamic.

How Systemic Therapy Differs

My approach is rooted in systemic psychotherapy, which looks beyond the individual and towards the patterns that shape a relationship. While many models focus on each partner’s inner world separately — thoughts, emotions, personal histories — the systemic lens focuses on the relationship as a living system.

We explore how both partners influence one another’s experiences, reactions, and needs.
Rather than asking, “Who’s right?”, we ask, “What’s happening between us?”

This shift allows us to move from blame to curiosity — to see the communication loops that keep you stuck and learn how to change them together. In couples work, this often brings relief quickly, because partners begin to understand that the problem isn’t either of them — it’s the pattern between them.

Systemic therapy doesn’t pathologise one person; it illuminates the connection.
Once that connection is visible, healing becomes possible.

A Collaborative, Gentle Approach

What makes this work different is the balance between gentleness and directness. I listen closely to your story — your emotions, your fears, your hopes — while helping you see the patterns that keep you locked in repetition. Our work is not only about solving conflict, but about transforming the way you relate, communicate, and rebuild trust.

You’ll leave therapy with a clearer understanding of what happens between you, and concrete tools to navigate those moments differently — whether you come alone or as a couple.

Repair Your Relationship and Feel Like You Have Each Other’s Back

You don’t have to stay stuck in disconnection.
Change begins with one honest conversation — and the courage to reach out for help.

Book a free discovery call ⬇️ to talk about what’s been happening and how we can begin repairing what feels lost.
Let’s help you rebuild the closeness, respect, and understanding you both deserve